Strong Ain’t Always Cute: Gen X Women Tired of Being Superwoman

Let me tell you something: I hear it all the time —

“You’re so strong.”

“You’re such a go-getter.”

“You always figure it out.”

And yes, most times, I do.

But let’s be real… why does every day have to be a challenge just to make it happen? Why does “strong” feel like a sentence instead of a compliment? Why does my ability to survive make people forget that sometimes I just want to be held, supported, seen?

I am not Superwoman.

The Glow-Up Nobody Talks About

Here’s the twist: when people come to me for help, it’s easy. I show up. I give. I pour into my kids, and I pour even deeper into my GlamKids because that’s who I am.

I’ll show up with a meal, with money, with advice, with my presence. I make helping look effortless.

But when I share a struggle? When I let people peek behind the curtain? When I say, “This is heavy right now,” instead of, “How can I help?” I get…

“You’ll figure it out. You always do.”

And sometimes I want to scream: YES, I will figure it out, but why should I have to climb a mountain every single day just because I can?

Just because I’ve done it before doesn’t mean I don’t want or deserve help now.

The Burden of “Strong” on Gen X Women

Let’s talk about that word — strong.

It sounds like a compliment. But over time, it turns into a box. Because once people decide you’re “the strong one,” they stop checking on you. They stop offering help.

Strength becomes an expectation. Not a gift. Not a choice. A job.

And sis, that job is exhausting.

Why the Switch?

Here’s my theory:

• The Label Trap. Once they slap “strong” on you, softness disappears.

• The Helper Cycle. We make helping look easy, so folks forget it’s supposed to go both ways.

• The Yoda Effect. Even Yoda slowed down with age and needed Skywalker’s help. Wisdom doesn’t erase weariness.

This is what Gen X women tired of the Superwoman label know too well.

Friend to Friend

Sis, tell me I’m not the only one.

Have you ever asked for help and felt like you had to beg?

Ever let your guard down only to hear, “Girl, you got this”?

Ever been the fixer for everyone else, but when it was your turn — silence?

Because listen — I love being the one people can call. But sometimes, I just want someone to look me in the eye and say, “Sit down, I’ve got this one.”

The Cost Gen X Women Don’t See When Being Strong

What they don’t see is the toll. The sleepless nights. The tears in the shower. The days you push through while your body whispers “enough.”

Being the “strong one” often means suffering in silence. Because if you crack, the whole system feels like it will fall apart.

And here’s the truth: Gen X women tired of being strong all the time have carried this for decades.

We worked like men, raised kids like our mamas, supported parents, built careers, and now we’re raising GlamKids. And society still acts like we’re unshakable.

But the truth? We’re tired. We’ve been tired.

The GlamMa Life Stance

The GlamMa Life is not about pretending we don’t get tired. TGL is about honesty. About balance. About knowing when to shine and when to rest.

TGL is for Gen X women tired of being Superwoman who are ready for softness, laughter, community, and support.

We are not superheroes. We are strong, yes. But we are also stylish. Opinionated. Tired. Brilliant. Human.

A Word to the World

Dun-dun-DUNNNN!

That dramatic superhero music? Yeah, that’s not the sound I was expecting every time I walk into a room.

I was thinking more along the lines of “She’s a Lady” or “Brick House.” Fierce, fabulous, feminine. But no. Apparently, my theme song is Superwoman saving the day again.

Cute, right? Except… it’s exhausting.

Because behind every “strong woman” is one more unpaid, unacknowledged burden. And behind every “you’ll figure it out” is a chance to say, “I’ll help you figure it out.”

Challenge

• If you’re the one who’s always strong: share your story. Drop it in the comments with #TGLNotSuperwoman.

• If you love a strong woman: stop saying “she’s got this.” Start saying, “How can I help?” Or better yet — just help.

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Let’s shift the culture. Strength should not mean solitude.